at one of my last talks in Manila, already very thin
When I turned 54, my sister passed on, alone and lonely, from cancer. I did not want to die like her, so I felt I had to change the trajectory of my life. Besides, burnout was starting to rear its ugly head.
After I got off the
career bandwagon and retired early, I migrated to America. My eldest and two beloved
grandchildren had already moved there to join her husband and their father.
It is helpful to revisit
what happened to me. Understanding the factors that led to my situation allows
me to uncover strategies that could have prevented burnout. Sharing them may
help you prevent one.
Understanding
Burnout
I had dwindled to a skinny 101 pounds when I entered the US. Burnout is a serious issue that can lead to physical and mental health problems.
It often occurs when an individual feels
more than overwhelmed. It can be a combination of exhaustion and disillusionment.
In hindsight, I should
not have taken the one-two punch of SAP and BayanTrade. My work at the
BIR was meaningful and manageable. However, my savings had been depleted as pay in
government was tiny.
The money, perks, and accolades offered by SAP proved hard to resist. But I walked straight into a burnout waiting to happen.
Preventing Burnout
I should have done the following:
1. Listen to My Heart
At the time, my eldest
was already working, my second daughter had graduated and was job hunting, and
my youngest was about to graduate from college.
If I had been smart, the
time to simplify my life would have arrived. There was nothing more I had to
prove. The cues were there. I did not have to return to the private sector.
Instead, I should have returned
to teach in DAP's Master in Public Management Program and the Master in
Business Administration Program of the University of the Philippines College of
Business Administration.
The government and the
academe are gentler work environments. In the process, I could have completed
my Doctorate in Business Administration. And I thrive in a scholarly
undertaking.
2. Listen to My Body
To make matters worse, in
the middle of my stay in SAP, I went into menopause. I would have benefitted
from a mentor who reminded me of self-care, prioritized my health, and learned
to say no.
Again, I did not take
this cue. Foolishly, I made the same terrible mistake and accepted the BayanTrade
offer.
Reducing Burnout
If I had been more forward-looking, I would have implemented burnout prevention or mitigation strategies as soon as I joined SAP.
1. Promote Work-Life Balance in the Office
I should have introduced
flexible work arrangements and addressed workload concerns. The company could
have also provided resources for fitness, relaxation, and counseling programs.
These are components of
a more sustainable work environment. I would have been the first
beneficiary, and other employees could have benefited.
2. Reduce Personal Commitments
Promoting work-life
balance is not the sole responsibility of the company. I was also responsible
for focusing on the job and family. These two are complex enough.
I should have minimized
extra-curricular activities in professional associations. I could also have
postponed my doctoral studies.
3. Ask for Support
I wrongly thought CEOs were supposed to be superhumans able to withstand all kinds of challenges. At lower levels, higher executives support anyone in navigating the challenges. The same is true for CEOs.
But I was too embarrassed
to ask. Worse, I thought I would be punished. Distance prevented me from building
closeness with the SAP regional team in Singapore. And, unlike MegaLink, I had yet to develop open and honest communication with the BayanTrade
board.
Burnout is a real issue.
It is essential to take care of oneself first and foremost. If you are
overwhelmed, exhausted, and disillusioned, take a break. It can allow you to
reflect, recharge, and regain your footing.
Acknowledge what your
heart says, listen to your body, promote work-life balance, reduce your outside
commitments, and ask for support. By addressing the underlying causes of
burnout and prioritizing your well-being, you can stay in your role and
enjoy it longer.
Wow, you are amazing that you identified what was wrong and addressed the problems in a major way! Resigning from your career and moving to the US in middle-age certainly sounds daunting but impressive. It sounds like you have found your calling here in the US with career and life counseling :)
ReplyDeleteOnly upon revisiting 20 years later!
DeleteOof. Burnout is so real, and it can be so debilitating. It sneaks up on you, too! I've burned the candle at both ends and crashed so hard before.
ReplyDeleteWon't let it happen again!
DeleteOh, man, I really needed to read this. I know for certain that I am in the beginning stages of burnout. I don't just burn the candle at both ends. I throw the whole darn thing into the fire.
ReplyDeleteEveryone needs to read this, bookmark it, and read it again. I'm self-employed, so it's very easy to overdo it and burn myself out. It's important to have outlets to decompress.
ReplyDeleteYes, very important!
DeleteBurnout is so brutal and it sneaks up on you so quickly! It's so easy to get crushed by it if you're not careful.
ReplyDeleteOnce in my life!
DeleteI wish I had been able to help you then. But at that time, I was also busy starting and building my career. I was blessed not to have gotten to the point of burnout but I could have easily fallen into the same trap of busyness and material rewards. At some point, my life took a different turn. I learned energy medicine and specialized in sleep and burnout issues. I also became a Balanced-Life Strategist and now I mentor successful leaders who need to find balance and eventually fulfillment.
ReplyDeleteYes, wish you were there at the time!
DeleteThat balance can be so hard to achieve sometimes! I'm sorry you lost your sister but I'm glad you were able to use the experience to make changes in your own life.
ReplyDeleteTotally changed my life for the better. Still, I wonder how it would have been if I didn't get it to the burnout stage?
DeleteBurnout is a real thing and sometimes people often notice it too late. It's best to keep things at a balance and try to decompress at times.
ReplyDeleteYou sound like you will never experience burnout!
DeleteBurn out is tough, and you had a lot going on. It’s nice to hear your evaluation, and how you would have changed things. That’s exactly how we learn from what goes wrong. Thanks for sharing!
ReplyDeleteLife-long learning!
DeleteThank you for sharing your journey with such honesty and wisdom. Your insights on burnout and self-care are powerful and valuable reminders for everyone navigating life’s challenges. Your story is a testament to the strength of the human spirit and the importance of listening to our hearts and bodies. Much admiration for the incredible person you are!
ReplyDeleteMuch gratitude for the friend you are!
DeleteFor Gervin Khan
ReplyDeleteSuch great information to understand and be open-minded in this kind of matter, to take care and value ourselves and know our worth to balance any situation and living our life more easily and happy
You got it!
DeleteThis post is so informative and helpful! I love how you explain stress in a relatable way and offer practical tips for managing it. Your advice feels easy to apply in daily life, which makes a big difference.
ReplyDeleteIt was real for me. It changed my life. And I have been wondering...what if I was able to manage the burnout???
DeleteIt's very important for us to listen to our bodies and look after our health. These are great points to avoid burnout.
ReplyDeleteIf only...
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