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Since my husband and I met while already on the road to retirement, we did not experience the initial stage of the cruising lifestyle’s weekend RV trips. We jumped right into fulltime RV cruising after the wedding, inspired by the idea of a never-ending honeymoon. We made the RV our home and lived all over North America for five years, visiting forty-nine American states, nine Canadian provinces and territories, and six Mexican states.
Last year, after three years of snowbirding at Viewpoint in Mesa, Arizona, and making many friends, we finally bought a home at the Resort. Now, a full year after our RV was sold, I revisit the debate that raged in my head in the middle of our adventure. There are pros and cons to the fulltime RV cruising lifestyle. I wrote about them here. This is an updated post that offers better perspectives, in hindsight. But do I reach the same conclusions?
We enjoyed the following benefits tremendously:
Consistently experiencing new things-to-do
Closeness to nature and the outdoors
A larger, refreshing view of life
Stress (the positive kind)
Consistently seeing new places and sights
Consistently meeting new peopleCloseness to nature and the outdoors
A larger, refreshing view of life
Stress (the positive kind)
At the time this debate was raging in my mind, we had already traveled 21,000 miles, from Alaska and the Arctic Circle to Mexico and the Tropic of Cancer to Florida and Low Country USA. We would travel 80,000 more miles, but the pattern was set early on. Because of the consistently new experiences, activities, places, sights and people, boredom never had the chance to set in. And the ability to boondock brought us closer to nature and the outdoors.
Since we had not been rooted anywhere really, we were also developing a more accepting view of life, adapting more easily to differences in daily living among countries, regions, and towns; and also becoming aware of universal themes and larger concerns. Our lifestyles were quite driven before we married and fully retired. My husband was keeping a small business alive in a flagging economy after years of navigating the corporate jungle. In turn; I was juggling teaching at three institutions of higher learning while babysitting my grandson after years of pioneering in information technology in the Philippines. The RV cruising lifestyle was exhilarating and reinvigorating.
And, though there was a lot of stress looking for campgrounds, hooking-up and unhooking, planning itineraries, mapping sights to see and choosing activities to do, it was the positive kind of stress; it wasn’t the kind where you earnestly pray that your situation will change or even wish that you were somewhere else. It was the kind that allowed you to sleep soundly at night with this thought: "That was an awesome day well spent!"
But we also experienced the following disadvantages:
Loss of the sense of stability
Many unfamiliar situations
Time and distance stress on bonds to family and friends
Inconsistency in involvement with worthwhile causes
Loss of income
Uncertainties in healthcare
Many unfamiliar situations
Time and distance stress on bonds to family and friends
Inconsistency in involvement with worthwhile causes
Loss of income
Uncertainties in healthcare
The very benefits of having something new all the time also brought the disadvantage of instability and a preponderance of unfamiliar situations, especially in the beginning with our smaller 24-foot RV. Once, in Chicken, Alaska, I ended up finishing my bath using the cold water in the sink. I could just not get the Park’s coin-operated shower to operate again when the time for the first token was over.
The most telling was the stress on bonds with family and friends and the inability to work for humanitarian causes we used to nurture. Technology has definitely helped with bonding (skype, webcam, cell phones, broadband access, laptops, the internet, Facebook, etc.) but “propinquity” was actually lost. And, since we had practically a new parish each or every other week, we could not participate in a regular ministry. In hindsight, we could have parked our RV near our children’s homes for longer times; and, maybe, in Louisiana, parked our RV there to help build homes for Katrina victims, as an example.
What younger people would find most disturbing, however, is the loss of regular income. We found out later that there are options like “work camping” (see workamper.com), parking your RV at Amazon centers for seasonal jobs, or getting a portable career such as monetizing travel blogs. For retired people like us, the income loss just made us more frugal than usual and budgeting more of a regular to-do. This was not a big issue for us.
But the disadvantage that finally made us settle down sooner than we otherwise wanted is uncertainties in healthcare. Again in hindsight, we should have established a central location where we could return regularly a couple of months a year so that a family physician, a dentist, and an ophthalmologist could take care of monitoring our health. Since we didn’t, we had a few health issues that bothered us more as time went on. We had three wake-up calls before we finally decided: a heart attack, a blood clot, and collapsing in an Auckland street.
Today, we come to the same conclusions. It is a lifestyle we hope many would be able to experience at least once in their lifetime. If you do, please refer to my post on The 10 Commandments of the Full-time RV Cruising Lifestyle. I loved the adventure so much I wrote a book about it: Carolina: Cruising to an American Dream. It thoroughly describes the lifestyle; and also my inner journey of becoming a wife and an American. So, yes, we recommend you succumb to the lure of the open road! We are thankful that we took the plunge even if it wasn't forever.
Some parting words, though. A good attitude is not to sweat the small stuff when you face varying situations, people, rules, facilities, schedules, etc. For older folks like us, that may not be an easy thing to do, but it is a good exercise for improving emotional flexibility. And, if you are a “young couple” like we are, the coziness of the lifestyle makes for another great exercise for building closer and stronger bonds. How’s that for advice from a couple that met on the road to retirement?
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